The Story Of My Wedding Ring | Jon Jorgenson - How to Give a Great Wedding Speech or Toast Speech Delivery Tips, how to memorise a speech, tips fo

The Story Of My Wedding Ring | Jon Jorgenson


This is my wife, Erin. We got married on August
1st, 2015. When planning the wedding, Erin
was the type of girl who cared about every
last detail. I, on the other hand, cared most
about two things: her happiness, and the meaning
behind everything in the wedding, specifically,
my ring. Let me explain. This is my wedding
ring. It's made of a metal called tungsten.
Tungsten is the same type of metal used to
make rivets. Rivets are small metal pieces
used mostly to craft wings for airplanes.
A rivet works kind of like a nail, only when
you nail a rivet in, what would be the point
of the nail actually expands. This makes it
impossible to separate the two pieces that
the rivet has put together. So let's recap.
My wedding ring is made of tungsten, a metal
thats main historical use has been to permanently
fix two things together. I think I made the
right choice.


How to Give a Great Wedding Speech or Toast Speech Delivery Tips, how to memorise a speech, tips fo


a lot of people, they write a beautiful speech,
and they're just not sure how to communicate
it. Its hard - you don't know what to do.
There are so many unfamiliar and unfriendly
looking faces in the crowd. So how do you
give a speech that is confident, funny, debonair
and charming? Well it all comes down to execution
our first tip in execution - lose those notes!
If i'm looking down at my paper all the time,
its really hard to form a connection. You're
just not going to register as much because
it doesn't seem real. So lose those notes,
buy instead of having a whole script that
you have to get through - having a few key
points that you illustrate with stories.
Stories are easy to retell without needing
notes because you already know them.
So limit yourself to using stories, and your
speech is going to be much more effectively
communicated, and you're going to feel a lot
more confident giving it.
Second point when you're delivering a speech
is eye contact.You want to make sure that
you're looking all around at the various guests
in the room. You want to make a personal connection
with each and every one of them. Try varying
your gaze every few seconds to different parts
of the room and that will make a huge difference
in peoples ability just to interact with you
and feel like they're being personally spoken
to during your speech.
It can get a little intimidating looking into
the eyes of complete strangers, especially
because people tend to have their tv face
on when they're watching a speech they're
just deers in the headlight kind of thing.
So one tip we can give you is to look at the
friendly faces - focus on a few key people
in the audience who are smiling, who ARE engaged,
and just keep alternating between them when
you're looking during your speech.
Tip number 3 - you've lost your notes, you're
making eye contact, that's great. Now you
have to make sure you're watching the clock.
Stories are fantastic but they can also be
long winded and drawn out. A 45 second speech
is no good because people won't think its
heartfelt, but a 45 minute speech is going
to have your audience in tears - and not the
good kind! So make sure you're practicing
your speech in advance. Pull out your iphone,
your smartphone, and time yourself ahead of
the wedding so that you know exactly how long
it is. A good speech length is anywhere from
5 to 10 minutes. Of course if you've got an
amazing story, and amazing connection with
the groom or bride it can go a little longer.
But generally, the shorter, the more people
are going to appreciate it, and the better
they're going to be engaged.
Once you've timed your speech and you know
how long its going to be you go a long way
in keeping peoples attention.
And finally our last point in giving a strong,
confident speech, is to be conversational.
You don't need to have every little word scripted
out. If you're telling stories and you're
talking - just try to stay natural. Keep your
body language active, don't stand rigid at
the stage, and just relax. Pretend its a conversation
between two people not a conversation with
500 other people. A speech shouldn't really
be a speech - it should be more of a conversation.
Each member of the audience should feel like
they're being personally spoken to. If you
do that - you keep it conversational, you
use stories, you make eye contact, you lose
those notes, you're going to give an incredible
wedding speech.
So feel confident and enjoy this opportunity
to tell the bride and the groom how much they
mean to you. You're going to do great!
If you still aren't sure how to write your
wedding speech, head back to our previous
video: the 5 keys to writing a great wedding
toast. If you're ready, we congratulate you
and wish you best of luck - enjoy that wedding!